Dating a guy 9 years older
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Although each person and each relationship is unique, there are some general guidelines that can help you have a more successful relationship with someone who is a decade older than you.
Men in general tend to have difficulty in communicating their feelings, but older men understand it's importance and take the time to try and discuss things with you.
Their weekends don’t consist of getting wasted and showing off how much he can lift at the gym.
It’s also the little things, like knowing what a coaster is and paying attention to the weather forecast.
Here is a list the top 5 pros and cons of dating an older man—applicable to most everyone who is older—that I’d never considered: The Bad: 5. Reactions to the age difference from friends, colleagues, family, etc. When Cole asked me on our first date, he suggested a day (Saturday), a time (noon), and three restaurants from which to choose. Cole has a career, a car, a house, plans for the future—I’m not enamored by the material possessions; rather, I respect his ability to commit to things.
have ranged from being unfazed to naming other couples they know with big age differences (I guess to reassure themselves? My mom is only two years older than him” and “He could biologically be your father” (thanks for that imagery…). After going on dates with a barrage of indecisive and ambivalent guys (and being in a relationship with one for two years), this was incredibly refreshing (see #9: If you're the one asking, then you should be the one planning the date). He’s not in the “finding himself” stage, living with mom and unable to decide on a career path.