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As far as I can tell, the thinking is, “Since we share the same core beliefs, and we find each other very attractive, then everything else will work out according to the principle of the Great Love that commands our lives.” Many eager couples are especially prone to assume multiple levels of compatibility based on mutual profession of the same belief system. Also, I think that the model for how love develops might be potentially quite different.
In such cases, profession of the same belief system is treated as a kind of Hasbro Candy Land “gumdrop mountain pass” that allows the couple to skip several steps of a wise courtship process and to marry prematurely. I don't have deep knowledge of the mate selection practices of Orthodox Jews, but I believe that a matchmaker may be involved in the process.
Before launching into the substance of my argument, let me first back up and mention that people conceptualize soul mates in different ways.
One reader presented a thoughtful perspective in response to my last post, asserting that "soulmates is just the universe providing an opportunity to work on something that will be greater than the sum of two parts…that will enable both to grow more through that union, than separately.
A person who becomes convinced that they have found their soul mate is effectively telling themself, "It does not get better than this." For this reason, those who believe that they have found the "One" or their "Soul Mate" are likely to be at greater risk for marrying prematurely after a relatively short courtship.
Of course, someone with a balance of mature personality traits could potentially believe, "Well, since I have met my soul mate, time should not alter our predestined bond.
When similar spiritual beliefs are used to support this feeling, the eventual disillusionment may result in a crisis of faith, a questioning of one's entire belief system. So, these are a few thoughts to hopefully get a conversation started if others are interested.Joshua Harris, for instance, has promoted a model of courtship that harkens back to a model used broadly before modern dating evolved.People attempting to follow a courtship model within today's culture, however, often run into a lot of practical questions, such as, "What if her dad is unavailable or uninterested in being involved?The system today's young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.We often hear complaints from readers about the confusion, hurt and sexual sin they've encountered despite their best intentions.